Why does he have a close bond with my friends but not me, but stares at me...he's so confusing!?

Hello all, o.k so there's this guy at work whom is known to be a bit of a flirt (he's an Aries) and well i kinda have/had (ooh on and off i suppose) a thing for him. he is a very confident guy! he ain't the shy type neither, but my god! does he have mood swings. Well anyway he has this really close bond with like three of my friends 2 females and 1 male, with the first female they always hug and they always have a laugh and talk to 1 another he even flirts with her as well, like saying things like would she ever go out with him, and how he thinks he may have ruined his chances with her cause apparently he had a fling with one girl at work and he's only been in the company (transferred to my region) for like 4 and a half months though i must admit he is very handsome, but no one tells him this as he's very egotistic.....Anyway he doesn't know we know about his fling, but the thing is that he told my best friend who is also his close friend that he's not interested in her and that she is not his type, he likes her as a person and likes to play fight with her but he wouldn't go out with her...in fact he told both of my best friends who is also his close friends the same thing...the second female friend he has a mutual bond kinda like a mother figure bond they always talk bout deep things and also play/joke about as well and the third is my male best friend also his best friend they work on the same floor and go to the gym with each other alot they also have a strong male bond as friends (i hope ha ha) you know guys but its so weird coz he talks to all three of them except me, and when i used to work on his floor he would constantly stare at me for a long period and when i look up to look at him he turns away immediately he would also watch me when he was going down the stares, when we did talk it would only be regarding work and nothing else we would pass each other in the hallway or on the stairs and say nothing to one another however once in a while when there was no one around or everyone seemed busy he would always look at me and give me a smile (he's so weird) Me and this guy do not have a bond at all but i always catch him scanning me head to toe/ toe to head all the time (yes i do have hips and thighs and i am curvaceous) just staring at me.


Once i was coming out of the ladies locker room and he was just about to go into the cash office to get the floats then as soon as he saw me he just stopped and started staring at me, when i said morning he would not reply just stare then i said it again and he was like in a trance but staring at me then i said morning to him again and he said morning putting his head down i asked him what was wrong with him and he just ignored me but now recently me and my male best friend who is my soul mate always hang together ALL the time even my colleagues think there's somthing going on, but there isnt we just get along SOOOO well he's cancer and im pisces and well this guy who i have/had a thing for has been asking my male best friend if we were going out cause we seem mighty close and always in sync with each other, he told him no where just friends then he asked the same question to him twice last week again cause he didnt believe it and he even asked my female close friend the same thing cause where always talking on the phone at work to each other because we work on different sales floors and hugging each other..WHY IS HE STRESSSING HIMSELF SO MUCH!! i mean is there something that he knows that i don't know. Even one of his friends whom was also transferred to the store i work in fancies me and he would always tease him about it, i don't know if he still does as i dont see them hang together that often cause of different time shifts.....





I'm so sorry for the long paragraphs but its been 4 and a half months and this guy is stressing me out..PlEASE HELP! would be much appreciated for straight and honest answers thanks :-)|||He obviously fancies you and finds it easier to talk to your frineds but struggles to talk to you.





He is shy and you should show him you like him ifyou do.





No 1 - let him make the move which could take ages and stress you both out but worth it





No 2 - tell him you know and you lke him, then that leaves the ball in his court whilst improving his confidence|||yeah i thought the same thing as well James, then i found out he has an on/off girlfriend but also keeps flirting with another girl, he still keeps asking my friend if were seeing each other or not. He even approached me in the dinner lounge and asked me the same question. maybe he's confused.

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